As a mother how much quality time should I be spending with my child? How do I spend quality time with my child?And how not spending quality time with my child can harm her are some questions on top of most mom’s minds. But taking out time for kids and match their energy and enthusiasm after a full day or work, or even if you are a stay-at-home mom is not always easy. This can leave kids feeling lonely and dejected. So, the rules of spending quality time with your kids have been redefined.
Why Is quality time so essential?
It is alarmingly true that children as young as middle school and high school age group are falling into loneliness and depression due to lack of quality time from parents and productive engagements.To express their inner self, children often manifest poor impulse control, aggressive outbursts, argumentativeness and many other behavioural problems. Children, from an early age, get all the materialistic aspects of life but not the healthy mental connections. Moreover, they don’t have any hobbies. Remember that your child needs you much more than she needs expensive gifts!
9 easy ways to spend quality time and maximize your time with your child!!!
1. Try to reduce your child’s screen interface time to a bare minimum and for children below 7 years of age, don’t allow it at all.
2. If you don’t feel like doing something, simply have a conversation/discussion with your kid. Snuggle in bed and discuss some issues, open the newspaper and in simple language help her understand what’s happening. This will boost her knowledge and evaluative skills as well.
3. Till a certain age (say around 7-8 years) try and have bedtime story sessions routinely. This will develop the hobby of reading and also help in fantasy play through a boosted imagination. Once the child catches the fun of reading, she will free you up as well.
The modern rule of quality time is defined by spending time together within the time you have on hand. It does not ask of parents to mark out special time slots. It is more integrative in nature and less demanding.
4. Share a “we” time with her at least once a week. You can pick some common hobbies for example – gardening, art and crafts, singing, stamp bookmaking, etc.
5. Keep separate schedules every day for activities, for studying and reading (to nurture the hobby of reading). It will help her develop a habit of following a schedule and be punctual in the later stage of life.
6. Guide your child to help you assist in minor domestic tasks to keep her occupied as well as develop a sense of responsibility in her.
7. If your child likes a sport, musical instrument, or activity show her videos on the same, take her for shows/sporting events and try and broaden her horizon.
8. Try to have meals together and consider going out for a weekend lunch or dinner every fortnight.
9. Children like being treated as independent young adults…so instead of fussing around her and exhausting yourself in the process, let her manage small chores herself. While you wash and moisturize your face before bedtime, ask her to do so as well. She will imitate you and catch up really fast.
But importantly, be patient and an active listener. At times your child needs someone to tell things to, to be understood unconditionally, and show her the way.