Celebrating the being of Grandparent in Child’s Life
A picture depicting the support this grandchild has received from his grandparents saying. ‘My dad is my King but Grandpa is indeed my Emperor!’
It is proven over decades that none can replace the enthusiasm, care and joy of Grand-parenting. It is remarkable how, overnight, a quiet mature lady (your granny) can learn to sit cross-legged on the floor and play a tin drum, quack like a duck, sing all the nursery hymns, make paper flowers, draw shapes and sew on sweaters that she didn’t think she’d be able to do. A grandparent often plays one of the most important roles in a child’s life. They have the privilege of being mentors, advocates, friends, and role models for their grandchildren and all the children.
Humanistic school of Psychology believes that if a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in. Research has proven that the child at home has the ability to restore an adults zest for life and faith in humanity. Their pains are reduced by being with children. A child’s presence takes away their feeling of loneliness and to an extent cures depression. Those days are coming back when families want to unite and stay together. Nuclear family systems aren’t preferred anymore. Couples are not happy staying alone leaving themselves confused and brimmed with anxiety and panic of not being able to handle work and family. The support system they get from elders and their parents is being missed. Hence, Indian parents are now moving back with their elders forming a joint family and sharing the love and care for better growth and development. For a child, the hand of a grandparent is like the comfort of a favorite blanket. They surround him and warm him emotionally while protecting him from life’s little bumps and bruises.
Folks, chains do not hold a family together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads of love and encouragement, which sew people together. Also, remember parents; Grandmothers have the time to tell stories, time to hear secrets, time for cuddles – which they never had as a mother. With experience comes wisdom and no one can understand you and your child better than a grand parent. I’d like to sum up sharing an insight a child left me with in one of the counselling sessions; A little boy was asked, “Where is your home?’ “Where grandpa lives,” was his reply. He made me realize that a grandchild and grandparent are connected at heart. The love of the family should be your child’s estate and that comes via Grandparents. Another girl shared her secret of solving every problem by herself was that “If nothing is going well, call your Grandmother. I do this often and she’s got a magic wand that only I can use”. So you see how elders cognitively and emotionally strengthen a child’s personality and give a positive ray of hope. Let us all remind ourselves that other things may change us, but we start and end with family.
Love to all