As parents, you want your child to learn so many things. And that’s quite natural! During her growing years, you want your child to be respectful, to have good manners, to be cooperative and kind, and many more. But the one attribute, that tops your priority list for her to learn is responsibility.
Making your child responsible includes various small aspects of life like taking care of self, maintaining personal hygiene, managing personal belongings at school, giving someone a helping hand, etc. Definitely these skills cannot be inculcated within your kid overnight; making her learn to take responsibility should start early, from the age of 3 years.
To make her responsible, check out these tips:
1. Assign simple chores
Try to assign small age-appropriate duties to your child in the form of giving you a helping hand with simple tasks. That will help her to learn managing tasks with confidence.
2. Allow her to make decisions
From an early age let her make decisions for herself. You can do that in many simple ways at home. For example, while going out for some event take out two or three dresses and let her decide for herself which one she wants to wear. Respect and guide her decisions whenever required.
3. Foster independent attitude
To encourage a sense of autonomy within your kid, allow her to help herself. Let her pack her school bag, manage her stationeries and other belongings. These everyday tasks will help her in learning how to take responsibility.
4. Lead by examples
Your child learns by seeing you. When you desire to teach her responsibility, try to set yourself as a good example in front of her. If you have made any promise to her, keep it for sure. Your responsible behaviour will prompt her regarding which behaviour to adopt.
Create opportunities for your kid to display responsible behaviour. Under your supervision, let her complete a few household works. This will not only teach her to be responsible, but confident and self-reliant as well.
5. Logical explanations
Whenever you wish to guide your child towards a particular decision, or when you fail to keep some promise made beforehand, try to give her an age-appropriate logical explanation. This will help her learn accountability.
6. Consistent schedule
Try to follow a particular pattern of daily routine. Make this schedule consistent for yourself and your child. No doubt that there will be some cheat days! But maintain regularity as far as possible. A daily routine helps in making your child adopt good habits and manners, and taking responsibility for her actions. For example, if your child wakes up at 7 A.M. make it a regular practice. Maybe once a week (Sunday) she can wake up at 8 A.M. instead of usual 7 A.M.; but that should be explained to her logically to follow, for making her responsible regarding work day and holiday.
Below mentioned are the simple tasks and activities that you can assign your child to foster a sense of responsibility in her, at different stages of life:
Teaching responsibility to Toddlers & Pre-schoolers (3-5 years)
- Accountability for personal hygiene and body safety
- Self-assistance to wear clothes and during food time
- Habit formation like sharing with others, maintaining cleanliness, etc.
- Separating study, co-curricular activity and play time effectively (with some guidance)
- Helping you in simple home chores
Teaching responsibility to School-age child (6-9 years)
- Managing and maintaining personal grooming
- Following personal etiquette and table manners
- Taking care of belongings
- Developing time management skills
- Doing simple household chores independently
- Developing task prioritisation and time management skills
Teaching responsibility to Tweens and Teens (10-14 years)
- Preparing for school and other related activities independently
- Staying alone and effectively managing self for some time, when parents are out for work
- Planning a small event at home like a family get-together
- Starting with money managementHelping parents with daily shopping and purchases
- Independent dealing with regular life works